We live in a world where we are surrounded by constantly streaming images1 and voices of negative and rarely positive incidents. The constantly changing reality around us- the political scenario, the economic reforms, the communal tension, the climatic change, apart from personal setbacks and tragedies creates a depressing atmosphere and thus we are unable to remain in a happy and cheerful mood.
Now, the question arises what exactly is happiness? To some, Happiness is the state of mind where person is fully satisfied with respect to his needs and desires. While to some others, Happiness is when the things are happening according to their whims. Thus, they depend upon circumstances which will make them happy or sad.
For instance, the new car, the diamond ring or cute outfit makes a person happy. Indeed, it will be short-lived and will leave him longing for the next high. As, if now the new car smell fades, the diamond collects dust, the outfits become outdated, the happiness is lost. After then, the new desires crop up and as we all know that a person's desires are unlimited and rarely all the desires are fulfilled,thus making a person distressed as and when any of the desire is not fulfilled. This emphasize upon the fact that fulfillment of person's desires decide the person's happiness.
True happiness is thus what we call it LONG LASTING well-being state of mind and which never fades away. To attain true happiness in our life, the following series of ways and means are required:-
HAVE POSITIVE THOUGHTS
Thoughts are energy or better call it metaphysical energy. The energy coming from thoughts is vibrations. Positive thoughts have higher vibrations and are stronger than the negative energy which has lower vibrations. Thus, positive consciousness with positive thought is necessary to have a cool and calm mind.
At times, the Meditation proves to be a very eminent instrument for long lasting happiness. It is during the meditation when the person is able to self-introspect himself and hence serves as a source of Internal Discourse and self-communication. Therefore it helps a man to experience joy, bliss, purity, peace and happiness.
Accepting situations calmly is not resignation. It requires knowledge of the real nature of this world and all that is happening in it. This world is like a VAST STAGE upon which all of us are actors playing our various parts. Unless we learn to look at this world and our and other's actions as SPECTATORS and watches a drama, we wouldn't get affected so much by events in the world and in our lives.
Being aware of the fact that we all are souls and if we start practicing that we being souls are detached from our body can help us enjoy what is happening around us. Moreover, to be happy keep in mind the LAW OF KARMA. This LAW OF KARMA is accurate and inviolable. If we remember this we will be spared brooding over or getting agitated about what we consider misfortune or injustice - both of which we realize are results of our own actions.
Worrying has become the second nature to humans today. The biggest cause of worry is fear of untimely death. But if we realize that whether we live or die is not going to make any difference to the fortune of any other soul because fortune is the product of each soul's past actions and it cannot be made or unmade by others. Hence, always realize "for every minute you are angry,you are losing sixty seconds of happiness'. Without searching for happiness outside, realize it within you. This is vividly expressed in following lines- "Happiness lies in your own backyard, but it's probably well hidden by crabgrass"
So, do figure out what all come in your way which make you unhappy and keep the feeling expressed in above lines which cannot allow anyone to debar you from being happy.
-- Shiv Parsad Gupta